Trans Love Stories – Marianne Oakes
At the start of April I shared my love story with my followers on Twitter. I came out to my wife, aged 19. Last December we celebrated 36 years of Marriage. I invited members of the twittersphere to share their own trans love stories and I was overwhelmed by the response. This IDaHoBIT 2020 I want to break the silence and counter any negativity to share with you the true-life examples of happy couples in love, where one of them just happens to be trans…
Being trans does not stop us from finding love. It may throw in an additional layer of complexity but that should not prevent people from taking a risk – after all, who can say that their own love story is 100% risk free?
Love can be painful and it can be cruel but it can also be wonderful, giving us hope and showing us that we can be accepted and appreciated for who we are.
A huge thank you to all those who were generous enough to share their stories – they offer irrefutable proof that trans love is not only possible but it is just as real and valid as any other love.
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Unfortunately relationships holding together, rather than falling apart due to transition are the exception, rather than the rule. And sometimes hormone therapy can alter your sexual orientation, as it did with me, which proved to be a crushing blow as I could not give my then partner the intimacy she craved. I am now facing an uncertain future with a sexual orientation firmly directed towards more masculine people, men basically. This I quite find quite scary in a dating market where I may be “competing” with cisgender women, for heterosexual men; and feeling nervous about the risks and their foibles, but I’m trying to be positive I can find the right person, maybe he’ll be a trans man? Who knows?