How Common is Gender Variance?
It is not known exactly how common gender variance is, and I suspect that it is way more common than you or I could imagine. Since I started working with this group I have been astounded at how many people have thoughts about their gender, and how many people feel that they were absolutely born into the wrong body.
I think that perhaps it can be understood better if we think that none of us are born 100% female or 100% male. Perhaps we are all on the spectrum somewhere and while some are nearer the female end others are nearer the male end, never mind what genitals we were given at birth. Some people will be nearer the middle and don’t strongly identify one way or the other. Perhaps the scale is not a straight line, but more like a sphere, with male / female gender at opposite poles, like the North Pole and the South Pole. And then maybe sexuality at different poles with homosexuality at one end and heterosexuality the other end and bisexuality nearer the middle? Then add sensitivity and whether you like football on the one hand, or dancing on the other – all at different points on the sphere. Perhaps we are all at a certain point within the sphere, our own exclusive point within the ball, different to everyone else, unique.